Things I Learned So You Don’t Have To

Some Things & Advice I Wish I Could Have Heard From the Big Sister I Never Had!

(Essentially “mom friend” word vomit in the best way possible)

  • You deserve to get back from the universe what you give into it – and even if you don’t want it you will
  • The people who truly love you will show you it when your at your worst
  • Healing and prioritizing yourself and your mental, emotional, physical wellbeing is the most important thing
  • Life will go on. It might not be the same but it will go on and you will grow.
  • Investing time and energy into hobbies and positive practices is invaluable
  • Keep the people in your life who will be your biggest cheerleaders close!
  • Struggling with mental health doesn’t make you someone’s burden and you can’t let anyone convince you it is
  • True confidence shines brighter and makes a bigger impact than fake confidence where you think you look cool
  • It’s ok to let yourself be sad and take necessary time to heal – there is no schedule but it’s important your actively working through it
  • Living life for yourself and making active choices for the betterment of mv life are vital choices to make
  • Giving your energy, power, and thoughts to those who do not serve you will never work out
  • What is truly meant to be will happen no matter how hurt or happy it makes you and it is impossible to foresee a path in life – you can only adapt to what the universe decides
  • It is a special thing to find people who see you never let them go, and if they want to leave then they aren’t your person
  • Academic achievements are best achieved in healthy and happy ways always
  • The importance of learning how to stand up for yourself while respecting your own boundaries of confrontational comfort.
  • Proving it/showing up > saying it/intending it. If it matters effort will be made.
  • Thinking about lives that “could have been” is a toxic spiral
  • You’re empathy is a gift no matter how much hurt it may cause you. Showing yourself that empathy and grace is so important and is ok to do. But that doesn’t mean you should be the bearer of everyone’s pain just because you know you can
  • Challenging yourself and stepping outside of your comfort zone in harmless but scary ways will always benefit you
  • Emotions are best healed from when they are felt to their fullest
  • It is ok to let those around you help you heal a heart they didn’t break
  • Hurt people hurt people. But that’s no excuse for their actions/words and doesn’t invalidate hurt you may feel because of it.
  • Having been in love is rare and a blessing. Unconditional love is rare and having felt it and given it is a blessing. The loss of both hurts but is survivable.
  • Never Forget: love is a two way street.
  • You know yourself, don’t let anyone make you question that you don’t
  • The person who did that thing you wouldn’t recognize them or couldn’t imagine them doing isn’t the version of that person you knew they are not that person anymore
  • No one is allowed to judge how you heal but you also can’t judge how they heal your emotions only need to make sense to you but theirs only need to make sense to them
  • People who value you will show it.
  • Taking the time to learn, respect, and understand your own and others love languages will offer so much insight and understanding to/for those you love and that love you and can save so much pain and miscommunication
  • Not one single thing is fair in life but karma is very real
  • Never feel so much pressure to be correct or polite that you loose your power and personhood
  • People will treat you EXACTLY the way they feel about you, watch for it.
  • How important it is to truly focus on the now instead of trying to plan ahead because you never know what the future holds
  • It is ok to have moved on but feel hurt by peoples actions – and those who would shame you for that are not worth your time.

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